Jesus was a “messy” (maybe)

13 03 2014

PENTAX ImageHave you read about the contrast between people who are messy and those who are neat-freaks?  Messies don’t pick up after themselves; they are oblivious to standards of neatness. Cleanliness is not a high value. They do life without having to place everything in order. Their desks are a mess. Their shoes lie around the closet or house. Dishes in the kitchen. Workshops seemingly piled with tools yet they usually know where to start searching.

Neat-freaks are the opposite.

So recently I was in a meeting with other church leaders and we got to talking about sharing worship space. Usually (at least currently; in the future the “shoe” could be on the other foot)…usually, it is an Anglo congregation sharing space in THEIR church building with an ethnic congregation. I have heard the difficulty expressed many times, “They don’t clean up the rooms; they leave them messy.” Or, “They just let their kids run all over the place. It’s chaos!”  Or, “They cook in the church kitchen and the smell of their food doesn’t go away!”

Some of these issues stem from different cultural values. God must get a kick out of watching how we rub each other the wrong way sometimes. This got me to wondering if Jesus would fit in more naturally with the messies or the neat-freaks.





Email, phone, or cup of tea?

31 01 2014

teach ESLPeople have varying kinds of friendships with documents. It may be because they are not confident with the local language (for me, English…well, American).  For others it may be a learning pattern, or an issue with eyesight.  Perhaps it stems from restlessness and distractability. But the reason may also be a cultural one.

To put it simply, some people prefer talking face to face rather than reading content on a page. They are strong on relationships. They excel at conversation. I remember many times in Kenya being embroiled in conversation with a Kenyan friend or even new acquaintance. The ability to recall details of an event, or to unfold a story, amazed me.

Such cultures are typically more community oriented. Time is taken to catch up on the extended family. Greetings often include a report on all the relatives and their well-being. If you walk into a meeting that is already in process, you will still quietly go around the table and shake hands with each person there.

I was raised in a different kind of culture, one that is more individualistic. This is more typical of Americans, at least those hailing from northern Europe stock. So when I introduce myself, I get right to the point. I don’t consider giving an update on my family. I give my title, my work, my city. Pretty soon, I’m getting to the point of the meeting –what I need or what I can offer. Communication is direct and speedy. Efficiency. That’s how I’m wired.

Bring these two cultural clusters into the context of a cross-cultural relationship, whether one-on-one or in an organizational setting. If I want to strengthen a relationship with the other person, I need to take a lot more time for relational updating than my internal time clock allows. If I’m conducting a meeting, a prompt start is not going to serve the group well. I need to hang loose and let people mingle and converse for a good 15 or 20 minutes (and not wear a scowl while checking my watch).

What else? Well, I need to be okay with the fact that some of the others do not feel comfortable with email communications. Maybe its the technology, or the language. Maybe its the impersonal nature of the method. Maybe its the cultural belief that if we’re friends we’ll make time to get together face to face and talk it through. Then the whole environment, the body language, the gestures, the emotion — everything adds to effective transmission of the message, and gives opportunity for exchange of ideas.

Sure, sending an email blast to the whole group is easier, but is it effective interculturally?  It gets more done but does more get accomplished? I tend to think that if I have put something in writing that it should be clear to all. But I may have distanced myself from my colleague of a more relational culture.

 





Beyond accomplishing “Multi-ethnic church”

10 11 2013

My point: It is not enough to accomplish a multi-ethnic church. We must mature toward intercultural community.

Diversity_Hands.250w.tnI am encouraged with the increasing discussion about the “multi-ethnic church.”  But what does it mean–not the phrase, but the importance. Is it merely the degree of diversity in participating nationalities (“We’re a multi-ethnic church; we have 70% of this, 20% of that, and 10% of the others”)? Is it taking recommended steps which succeed in increasing diversity, such as having ethnic diversity visible on the platform and leadership team, multi-lingual signs, and culturally-diverse worship styles?

Accomplishing a multi-ethnic church can be little more than “clanging symbols” which miss the real meaning: Love which builds bridges in the power of Christ where walls once divided. Whatever the nature of the walls, whether gender, class, nationality or age, the meaning of loving fellowship is that the Spirit of Jesus releases His grace among His people for God’s glory.

That is why I am compelled to write about maturing in this journey. It is not enough to accomplish a certain level of variety in ethnic diversity. This can be achieved in some locations without even trying. Love must increase if the deeper meaning of “multi-ethnic church” is to be realized. Every body of believers must progress in mutual understanding of each other, and recognition of mutual need for each other as complementary parts of the body.

The graces of the Lord Jesus are increasingly released as we journey deeper as “one body through the cross” (Eph. 2:16). I recently heard this kind of mutuality illustrated this way. You know the Spirit of God is at work when a 20-something says to the pastor, “We should have more organ music.” “Why,” asks the pastor, “Do you like organ music?” “No, but the older folks in our church do, and this is their body too.”  Or again, you know Jesus’ prayer for deep unity is being answered when the Anglo gal who prefers the choruses by Hillsong says, “We need some rap and hip-hop in our worship because the younger blacks in our body feel God’s presence through that kind of music.”

No one should ever claim that these truths do not apply to them just because they do not have ethnic diversity in their town. All separating walls which exist must be taken down with humility, mutual understanding, confession of offenses, and restoring of healthy fellowship. That includes divides between the religious rich and the economically poor, the powerful men and the under-resourced women, the historic landowners and the new arrivals. Love is always needed because pride is always lurking.

Its true that “birds of a feather flock together.” This principle is built into nature through creation. The “homogenous unity principle” exists, despite the accusation by some churchmen that it is nearly evil. Fact is, we are hard-wired with the yearning to seek out and stay with those like us. It helps us survive. But the Church universal, and local churches, are called to be more than a flock of birds. We are also a body with many parts. We must work to overcome flocking which prompts us to hive off with those like us (something we need, at regular times, to do). But such particularity (the valuable contribution and benefit of each part) must be balanced and ultimately outweighed by our mutuality. As one pastor said, a local church should be “islands of particularity in a sea of inclusion.” Love must overcome a multitude of divisions.

It is not enough to accomplish a multi-ethnic church. We must mature toward intercultural community.

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